Consider joining a support group such as Borderline Support. There are online communities such as BPD Family, and there are national organisations dedicated to supporting people and carers, such as the Mental Health Carers Association, ARAFMI or NEABPD. NEABPD is the Australian arm of an international organisation set up to support family and friends of people with severe emotional problems.

Our organisation and others provides group and one-on-one support to family and carers from DBT perspective. You can learn about complex emotional problems from a DBT perspective, and learn about validation and DBT skills. In our experience attending a group based programme for family and friends can make a huge difference.